A da na fi son haduwa da dogayen maza, amma yanzu ina kira ga mata da su fara rage tsammanin tsayin su
A wannan makon, jarumar Jameela Jamil ta ce tana son ganin an rage yawan kalaman soyayya a kan allo.Maimakon mace-mace-kyau-mace-mace-mace-masu-gamu-da-gani-kyakkyawan-man trope, tana son ganin soyayya tsakanin masu iya-jiki da nakasassu, soyayyar kabilanci da, me yasa ba, dogaye mata masu gajerun maza.
Abin kunya ne da yawa na yarda da kasancewa ɗaya daga cikin waɗannan matan: waɗanda suke yin hukunci da sha'awar abokin tarayya gwargwadon tsayinsa.Tsohuwar tarihin soyayya ta kan layi ta kasance tana ɗaukar layin “ƙafa shida da sama kawai”.
Zan iya nisantar da kaina daga girman abin kunya ta hanyar gaya muku cewa 99.9% na samari na sun kasance ƙasa da 6ft (a cikin jigon wariyar launin fata waɗanda galibi suna tabbatar da "amma ina da aboki baƙar fata!") amma gaskiyar ita ce na yi rajista. ga mantra wanda ya fi tsayi yana nufin mafi kyau.
Yana kama da gajerun sarakuna - sunan dabbobin intanet ga gajerun maza - suna ɗan ɗan lokaci.Tun lokacin da dan wasan barkwanci Jaboukie Young-White ya kirkiro kalmar a cikin 2018 ("Muna da inganci. Muna da karfi. Muna cikin haɗarin cututtukan zuciya," ya yi dariya a kan Twitter) an sami ƙarin sarari don magana game da gajerun maza. kyawawa.Me zai hana a mika wannan sabon karbuwar gajerun maza zuwa babban allo?
A cikin fim da kafofin watsa labarai ina son ganin gajerun maza masu tsayi da mata.Ina son intertrans soyayyaIna son mata masu launin fata masu launin fari/masu launin fata.Ina son mazan Asiya masu fararen mata.Ina son siraran maza masu kiba.Ina son ganin nakasassu.Gaji da zance na soyayya.❤️
Yanzu, na san duk abin da kuke tunani - akwai irin wannan ƙarancin bambancin akan allo, shin ya kamata wannan ya zama tudun da muke mutuwa a kai?Amma ka yi la’akari da wannan: sha’awarmu game da dogayen maza tana da alaƙa da kabilanci.
Ɗauki fina-finan da ma'aurata masu tsayin daka ke fitowa.A cikin Shallow Hal, Gwyneth Paltrow (5ft 9in) hasumiya a kan Jack Black (5ft 6in).Jigon wannan fim din (mutumin yana jin kunya don kada ya gane yana saduwa da mace mai kiba) ya gaya mana wani abu game da ka'idojin sha'awa a duniyar uba: gajere mutum zai iya saduwa da mace mai tsayi, amma idan tana da kiba. (kuma ana yaudararsa).
A cikin Wasannin Yunwa, Jennifer Lawrence (5ft 9in) tana wasa Katniss Everdeen, wacce ta fi takwarorinta tsayi, Peeta Mellark (Josh Hutcherson, 5ft 7in).Halin Peeta yana da taushi: shi mai burodi ne wanda ke ɓoye daga rikici maimakon fuskantarsa.Ba zai iya yin gogayya da babban abokin Everdeen Gale (Liam Hemsworth, 6ft 3in) wanda ke farauta da hura abubuwa.A karshen fim din, Gale ya kashe 'yar'uwar Katniss a kaikaice, wanda ya kamata ya zama darasi a gare mu duka game da mazaje masu guba.
Idan matsala tare da namiji mai guba shine yana bautar da maza don duk waɗannan abubuwan da ba su da ma'ana game da namiji ba tare da yin daidai da shi ba - tashin hankali, machismo, amincewa - to me yasa ba za a yi la'akari da tsayi a cikin wannan ma'auni ba?
Mutane akai-akai (kuma ba daidai ba) suna daidaita tsayi da namiji.Mazajen da suka fi tsayi suna samun karin girma, ana biyan su da yawa kuma ana ganin sun fi shugabanni.Shugabanni suna da matsakaicin tsayi sama da ƙafa 6.An fi son 'yan takarar shugaban kasa waɗanda suka fi tsayi (sai dai a Faransa, da alama).
Ku zo, 'yan mata: yarda cewa akwai ƙa'idodin kyawawan maza na yau da kullun ba ya lalata dalilinmu, yana ɗaukaka shi.Sarakunan gargajiya ba wai ma’auni ne kawai da ke damun mata ba, ma’auni ne da ke kama kowa.A wannan shekara, bari mu haskaka kimar gajerun sarakunanmu.
Lokacin aikawa: Janairu-19-2020